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Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour used by one person to dominate, manipulate, or intimidate another. It doesn’t always involve physical violence, instead relying on emotional, psychological, and sometimes financial abuse to gain and maintain control.
Coercive control often happens gradually and can be hard to recognise at first, and each case can look different, but an underlying factor is that it creates a climate of fear and dependency. Some common examples of coercive control include:
Recognising coercive control
Recognising the indicators of coercive control can be the first step toward protecting yourself or someone else.
These indicators can be broken down into common types of controlling behaviours: emotional and psychological control, isolation, surveillance and monitoring, control of daily life, jealousy, and possessiveness, and creating dependence.
These behaviours can start subtly, often expressed as feelings of concern or protection and worsen over time. Some signs for each include:
Emotional and psychological control
Isolation
Surveillance and monitoring
Control over daily life
Jealousy and possessiveness
Creating dependence
Getting help
If you recognise coercive control in your relationship, that is a powerful first step. It is important to know that you are not alone. Below are some ways to manage it and start getting help:
Helplines
1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
Elder Abuse Helpline: 1800 353 374
MensLine Australia: 1300 789 978
DV Connect (women’s line): 1800 811 811
DV Connect (men’s line): 1800 600 636
LGBTQ+ Helpline Support: 1800 811 811
Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800
Support at Mates4Mates
While Mates4Mates does not provide immediate crisis services, we do provide access to mental health professionals, including psychologists, counsellors, and social workers. They can provide information, support, and intervention, including referral to specialist resources if you feel that coercive control or domestic and family violence may be present in any of your close relationships.
Mates4Mates also offers social connection activities where individuals can come together in a supportive environment to share in camaraderie. These recreational activities promote a sense of community and purpose.
If you are a veteran or family member and want to find out more about how Mates4Mates can support your mental health, reach out to us on 1300 4 MATES (62 837) for a confidential chat.
Written by Christine Brabrook, Mates4Mates Social Worker.
Four million Australians are estimated to be living with lower back pain and understanding how to take care of your pain can sometimes be unclear, but there is support available.